While trolling the ‘net at an ungodly hour recently (*cough*I’maddictedtoStumbleUpon*cough*), I happened upon a picture of a teenage boy standing on the side of a road, wearing a homemade sign that read I smoked pot and watched porn and got caught. So this is my punishment.
I immediately snickered to myself and mumbled something along the lines of, You’re supposed to do that sh*t when your parents *aren’t* home, dude. Then I switched back over to Mom-mode and thought, Good for those parents! I’d do the same thing before waving my fist in the air and shouting about Kids these days!
A mother in Chicago is going a few steps further with her son, who was arrested and accused of stealing a pizza delivery car last weekend. Seventeen-year-old Ravontay Hutchin’s bail was set at $25,000, an amount his mother had no intention of paying. Not because she didn’t have it, but because she didn’t want to.
Ravontay’s mother told the court last Sunday morning that she had the money to bail her son out, but was opting to keep him locked up instead. She said that she’d done everything she could for Ravontay, whom she said was spoiled, and noted that his father is serving in Iraq. As he was led out of the courtroom, she told her son to “think about that, while your dad’s in Iraq.”
It was a move that impressed the judge. “I want to know why there’s not more parents like this. … I applaud her for her truthfulness,” she said.
This isn’t Ravontay’s only charge; he’s got a misdemeanor battery charge and several traffic violations tucked under his belt, and he’s only 17. He’s just a kid! So many times we’ve written posts at The Bad Mom’s Club and have ended them by wondering? where are the parents?, and here’s a story where the the parents – or in this case, a mother – is right there, doing something. Loving tough, sending a message that THIS ISN’T OKAY. That there are bigger things out there, more important things to be focusing on than car theft and battery. I’ll bet donuts to dollars that leaving her son in jail was one of the hardest things Ravontay’s mother has ever had to do, but there’s a good chance that it might turn his life around. I hope that for Ravontay’s sake – and his mom’s – that it does.
What are your thoughts? Do you believe in ‘tough love’? What would you have done if you were in this woman’s situation?