But not everyone is me – more’s the pity – and it seems that a whole lot of people are outraged, outraged, that Katie Holmes would allow her child – no longer a baby, no longer even a toddler – to comfort herself with this most infantile of objects. After all, binkies are for babies. Pacifiers are for pacifying small beings who cannot be pacified by means of direct communication, as can, say, a four or five year old. But is this fair? I mean, sure, I wouldn’t want my daughter, who is just some months older than Suri, clutching the ‘soovy’ (as we called it.) In our case, the ‘Soovy Fairy’ came when Emilia was about two and a half and took the beloved soovy to give to other babies and left a bicycle (don’t judge me) in its place and we’ve never looked back. (Jasper gave up the soovy of his own accord at about a year and a half of age, which saved us buying another bicycle, although did deprive the Soovy Fairy of some stock.) BUT STILL: that’s just us. I don’t know what goes on behind the closed doors of the Cruise-Holmes household – nor do I want to – but whatever it is that they do there, however it is that they parent, it’s none of my business. Maybe the binky is Suri’s lovey – Emilia still carries her lovey – maybe Katie thinks that it’s a better option for comfort than is, say, a lollipop, or a Starbuck’s frappuccino. The point is, we don’t know. And we shouldn’t care.
And even if we do care, what’s the harm in keeping it to ourselves? Parents in glass houses, after all – and we all of us live in glass houses; we all make choices that someone else would disagree with – shouldn’t throw stones.