Bad Moms Ditch Their Kids

By on February 16, 2012

…for date nights with their husbands.

I write a marriage column elsewhere (I am in NO WAY an expert – I just share what we have learned/read/done) and one thing I've rambled on about over there on many occasions is the need for a regular date night with your spouse. It doesn't have to be anything fancy (unless you want it to be), but there's something different about leaving your house, with your kids in the hands of a capable babysitter, that frees you somehow. You don't need to deal with calls for one more cuddle/pee trip/glass of water and you can just be you. Well, you and him.

My husband and I aim to have a date night every two weeks. Sometimes it's two weekends in a row, sometimes three weeks can go by between date nights. Sometimes we go out for dinner/Costco/movie, sometimes we go for drinks and a walk on the beach, sometimes we go on a double date with another couple. This past year, with all three kids in school, we sometimes meet for lunch on a work day.

My husband and I keep pretty connected day-to-day. We both help get the kids off to school in the morning, we text during the day and usually call each other at lunch, we hang out in the evenings once the kids are in bed. And yet, if too long goes between date nights out, I get antsy. So does he. That's how we're both feeling today as it's been nearly three weeks since we last went out together. Plus, in addition to our regular crazy lives, we've been dealt a few harder issues lately and we haven't had a break. So, we've made plans to drop the kids off at Grandma and Grandpa's on Saturday evening to play while we hit the local pub for some nachos and drinks. We'll be there all of an hour and a half, maybe two, but it will be exactly what we need. I can't wait.

How about you? Do you go on date nights? Date lunches? Date walks? Any kind of date time?

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About Angella

Angella Dykstra, aka reigning monarch of Dutch Blitz, is the wife of one and the mother of three. She’s an accountant by trade but would prefer if we could keep that our little secret. She spends all of her free time writing and taking photos and often ties the two together. She’s proudly Canadian but loves Americans, and not just because they created Target.

Comments

  1. OH man, do we need date night! Even if it’s just an hour at our favorite beer parlour, we need that time. We try to do it at least every other week too, coincides with Hubby’s payday.
    I honestly think it’s good for the kids too, to see their parents out doing things as a couple, not just tied to being home with the kids all the time.
    monstergirlee´s last [type] ..As Opposed to the Wonderful Sunny Days We’ve Been Having Around Here

  2. We’re heading off to the Oregon coast for a date weekend tomorrow morning and I am sooo excited!!! My husband feels guilty for leaving our little guy with grandma, but agrees that we definitely need some couple time – even if it barely more than 24 hours! :-)
    Emily @ Make It Happen Mama´s last [type] ..Flowers & Friday

  3. Laurie says:

    We definitely need and enjoy date nights – last weekend we went to a movie and then grocery shopping. Grocery shopping together without kids was awesome, lol! We do not have date nights anywhere near often enough, maybe every other month or so. In our defence, DH works out of town 2 out of every 3 weeks though, so our schedules are a challenge.

    This summer we have plans for long bicycle ride dates – fun!
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