…for date nights with their husbands.
I write a marriage column elsewhere (I am in NO WAY an expert – I just share what we have learned/read/done) and one thing I've rambled on about over there on many occasions is the need for a regular date night with your spouse. It doesn't have to be anything fancy (unless you want it to be), but there's something different about leaving your house, with your kids in the hands of a capable babysitter, that frees you somehow. You don't need to deal with calls for one more cuddle/pee trip/glass of water and you can just be you. Well, you and him.
My husband and I aim to have a date night every two weeks. Sometimes it's two weekends in a row, sometimes three weeks can go by between date nights. Sometimes we go out for dinner/Costco/movie, sometimes we go for drinks and a walk on the beach, sometimes we go on a double date with another couple. This past year, with all three kids in school, we sometimes meet for lunch on a work day.
My husband and I keep pretty connected day-to-day. We both help get the kids off to school in the morning, we text during the day and usually call each other at lunch, we hang out in the evenings once the kids are in bed. And yet, if too long goes between date nights out, I get antsy. So does he. That's how we're both feeling today as it's been nearly three weeks since we last went out together. Plus, in addition to our regular crazy lives, we've been dealt a few harder issues lately and we haven't had a break. So, we've made plans to drop the kids off at Grandma and Grandpa's on Saturday evening to play while we hit the local pub for some nachos and drinks. We'll be there all of an hour and a half, maybe two, but it will be exactly what we need. I can't wait.
How about you? Do you go on date nights? Date lunches? Date walks? Any kind of date time?